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10 Best Ways To Improve Your Profile
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10 Best Ways To Improve Your Profile
1. You're writing for an audience. Too
Much Information is a big No No. Just short and sweet. Just
because you think of something doesn't mean you should say it
here. Want to date a hottie and nothing but a hottie? Don't say
it, just do it. Leading with your superficial side has never
helped anyone.
2. Adjectives mean nothing. Anyone can write a similar list:
nice, smart, kind, warm, funny, honest, successful, ambitious,
family-oriented. If I can write that, and you can write that,
and your mom can write that, how are we any different? Turn
those adjectives into anecdotes and your profile may actually
sound different than every other well-intentioned adjective
writer out there.
3. Activities mean nothing, too. You might think you're writing
something specific a when you list your interests: "hiking,
biking, movies, music, travel," but really – don't most people
dig this stuff, too? If you're going to mention something, make
it as specific as possible. Where do you hike? What's your
favorite movie? What's the city you're just dying to visit one
day?
4. Ask yourself: "Can
anybody else say the same exact thing?" You want a person who is
honest? You like to laugh? You're done playing games? Join the
crowd. Better yet, come up with a more creative way to express
these same sentiments.
5. Leave the cliches to everyone else. Listen, I think it's cool
that you "work hard and play hard", are "equally comfortable in
a little black dress and a pair of jeans", and "are looking for
your best friend and partner in crime", but so is the next
person on my search list. And the next person. And the next…
6. Watch the bragging.
You can talk about yourself at great length without sounding
like you're showing off, but it's a fine line. Avoid subjective
evaluations such as "I'm very attractive/intelligent/funny" and
focus on illustrating the same points. Your picture will let me
know that you're attractive. Your grammar and diction will
indicate that you're intelligent. Your humor will come across in
your essays. Show us, don't tell us.
7. Nobody responds to negativity. If you're depressed, fed-up,
lonely, frustrated, or just out of a relationship, you may want
to wait until you're in a better place before you date online.
If you can stay upbeat and have fun writing your profile, people
are likely to have fun reading it.
8. Don't define yourself by what you don't want. So you've dated
enough people to determine that you don't want someone who's a
liar, who is grossly overweight, or who is chronically
unemployed. Congratulations. Turn those negatives into positives
or just leave ‘em out. People shouldn't feel personally indicted
by your essays.
9. One word: spell-check. Write your profile on a Word document,
spell-check it, then cut and paste it onto the site. Note: a lot
is two words, definitely doesn't have an "a", and you're is a
contraction meaning "you are".
10. For the love of God, tell the truth. If you don't, you're
destroying any future trust you may have tried to build up, and
you're giving all the honest online daters a bad name.
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