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7 Hot Secrets For Dating Shy Guys
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Hot Secrets For Dating Shy Guys
It's a good thing we all have
different personalities; think how dull life would be if
everyone was as brazen as Madonna or as outspoken as George
Carlin.
However, it's possible to go too far in the other direction, and
it's tough when your guy is shy to the point of seeming to
disappear into himself. So here are a few secrets to bring your
shy boy out of his shell so that he — and you — can both enjoy
your time together.
Seven secrets for dating shy guys:
1) Don't always be the leader.
Avoid the trap that just because he is slow to share his
thoughts, you think that you have to always take the lead and be
in charge. Have patience and let him know — whether through body
language or just by saying so — that it's not a race to see who
can go first. By taking your time, you can help create a climate
for him to take the initiative.
2) Don't hog the conversation. If
you must endure some awkward silence, so be it; it's important
to give him the time he needs to respond without putting
pressure on him. Ask questions so that you're involving him in
the conversation and making it easier to get him to talk.
Remember, it takes two to have a conversation.
3) Eye contact is real contact If
he turns away or looks down, it probably means that he is
embarrassed or has slipped into his shell. Have the patience to
let him get over whatever made him shy, and eventually it will
pass.
4) Ease him into meeting your friends and
family Instead of thrusting him into a crowd of your
friends or relatives all at once, have him meet just one or two
at a time. This creates a friendlier and less threatening
atmosphere and is more conducive to a good time. Meet at a
neutral location or at your place, where he'll feel more at
ease, rather than bringing him over to your friends' or parents'
house.
5) Get out more He might say he prefers it
just being the two of you, but there's no reason that you
shouldn't go out. The trick here is to be enthusiastic about
where you are going and not let exasperation cause you to berate
him as a "homebody."
6) Express your affection at his volume
The last thing you want to do is make him feel that everybody is
staring at him when the two of you are out together, and if he
finds your displays of affection embarrassing, then maybe it
means that you're going too fast. Slow down, take it easy: Just
holding hands or a gentle and momentary squeeze around the waist
can go a long way to show him you care without making him feel
uncomfortable.
7) Don't play shrink The worst
thing you can do is decide that his shyness is something that
you can "psychoanalyze" and fix. Granted you're doing it out of
love, but unless you've been trained at this sort of thing,
you're likely going to make things a lot worse. What is most
important is to have consideration and understand that being shy
isn't something "wrong" that needs to be corrected, but just a
part of his personality — which is one of the things that
attracted you to him in the first place
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