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Handle Stress Tips
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Handle Stress Tips
Friction are bound to occur in
relationships. Nothing in this world is perfect and there is no
one in the world who thinks, feels, behave and act like you.
Differences between people at times could generate stress. But
the important thing is to learn how to cope with relationships
stress and conflict. Expect relationship conflict to exist and
always be ready for it. It is the part and parcel of a
relationship that could make or break a relationship depending
on how you react or respond to it.
Below Are
10 Things You Must
Avoid In A Relationship Conflict.
1)
Avoiding Conflict:
Rather than discussing building frustrations in a calm,
respectful manner, some people just don’t say anything to their
partner until they’re ready to explode, and then blurt it out in
an angry, hurtful way. Remember that avoiding the conflict only
worsens the conflict. Since you allow submerged resentment and
undercurrents to build up when both of you choose not to talk
about your feelings.
You
Should : always initiate to talk about what is the latent
and manifest issues of the conflict. When you ask, do not
interrupt your partner. Lend him/her your listening ear and
listen emotionally to what is actually the problem. Work
together to find a solution to it. " When
you start talking about the problem, half the problem is
solved."
2)
Being Defensive:
Rather than addressing a partner’s complaints with an objective
eye and willingness to understand the other person’s point of
view, defensive people steadfastly deny any wrongdoing and work
hard to avoid looking at the possibility that they could be
contributing to a problem. Denying responsibility may seem to
alleviate stress in the short run, but creates long-term
problems when partners don’t feel listened to and problems go
unsolved and continue to grow.
3)
Overgeneralizing:
When something happens that they don’t like, some blow it out of
proportion by making sweeping generalizations. Avoid starting
sentences with, “You always…” and “You never…”, as in, “You
always come home late!” or “You never do what I want to do!”
Stop and think about whether or not this is really true. Also,
don’t bring up past conflicts to throw the discussion off-topic
and stir up more negativity. This keeps you from solving things
and perpetuates conflict.
4) Being Right:
Remember that you could be wrong. It’s damaging to decide that
there’s a ‘right’ way to look at things and a ‘wrong’ way to
look at things, and that your way of seeing things is right.
Don’t demand that your partner see things the same way, and
don’t take it as a personal attack if they have a different
opinion. Look for a compromise or agreeing to disagree, and
remember that there’s not always a ‘right’ or a ‘wrong’, and
that two points of view can both be valid.
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