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First Date Tips And Ideas
Share your First Date Tips & Ideas
Be creative.
Take a little time to think it through.
A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two and a half-hours
is not a good way to get acquainted. This arrange of just
30 mins for conversation is for those who do not talk much by
nature.
You don't want to be stuck staring at each other
without a topic of conversation.
A daytime meeting takes the heat off. Bright lights allow you to
observe him/her much better. ( eg. how good his/her complexion,
nostril hairs untrimmed .. )
Lunch or coffee is a good start. Start the conversation slow and
casual. Do not rush things.
Even better - a trip to the zoo. That allows both of you to keep
yourselves busy looking at animals just in case both of you run
out of topic to chat about.
Wear clothes that make
you feel good. Need not have to wear to impress, remember
lasting dates and true love need not have to rely only on how you dress, but
more on the affinity and chemistry that are build up through
casual conversation. As of course, do not dress shabbily. It is
your first date afterall, first impression counts a great deal.
Avoid conversations
that has anything to do with the past relationships. Issues
like: "What happened to your last relationship? , Why breakup? "
Do not merely focus just on the pessimistic aspect of the past
relationship. Moreover, he/she may not have totally got over it
yet. In the near future, as the date gets a little more
intimate, once the trust between both of you have been build,
you bet he/she will confide in you about these issues even
without you asking them.
New clothes always help - but if not new, be sure they're clean,
pressed, and fit well - or if that's not your style - be sure
they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and
still look presentable.
Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable.
This includes what you said to him/her. He/she may just be
as tense as you since this could also be their first date. So do
take note of the anxiety and and nervousness that may build up.
Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him.
Never be too stingy about your compliments and praises. Be
generous about it and people like to hear nice things about
themselves, especially so since this is your first date. First
impression includes what you mention to him/her. This could help
to build up their self-confidence and confide in you even more.
But not to overdo it as well. Do not overly praise somebody to
the point it sounds like you are being sarcastic and not being
true to yourself. Mean very praise you said. Said it not just to
impress but because you truly felt that way at that time.
Sincere and genuine praises melt the heart and goes a long way
in building up a long-term relationship.
Watch out for your dining etiquette and
manners and do display
some kindness if you are a guy like helping her to her seat.
Girls never resist gentlemen.
Thank the other person for the date - always, without exception.
Good manners are still in style. Show him/her how much you
appreciate them to fork out the time for the meetup. This shows
the consideration and sensitivity side of you and you bet he/she
will contact you again.
Focus on the Other
Person - pay attention to your date, especially so when he/she
is talking to you. Give him/her the due respect by giving your
100% attention. Look him/her in the eyes and this shows that you
are really interested in the topic and more, interested in
him/her.
No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships,
work, bank robberies. Be THERE just for him/her at that time.
Listen actively and
emotionally to what your date says. Listen emotionally means to
listen to the emotions that are attached to the conversation.
This is especially helpful if you are conversing with a gal. Gal
always speak with their emotions attached.
Don't interrupt. While your date is talking, don't spend time
thinking about what you're going to say when it's your turn.
Attitudes and Habits - stay positive.
Don't complain on a first date, even if you have many grievances
with your work or life. Don't give the impression that you are a
complain king/queen.
Be cautious about alcohol - if you drink heavily, you're not
going to be at your best.
If your date gets swacked on your first date, it's not
necessarily due to nervousness.
He or she is likely to be a heavy-drinker, at best, and could
end up drooling on your new, pressed clothes as you shovel him
or her into a cab. |
