Relationship Stages Tips
Which life level are
There are 4 major stages in an adult relationship - passion of
new love, mature love sets in, pretty good life and we are happy
Imagine life's a big department store and you're going up in the
lift. At level after level you get out, stay for a while, then
get back in the lift and move on up to exciting new 'shopping'
opportunities, but you leave the lower levels behind.
So which 'level' are you on in your life at the moment? Here are
four key stages which happen in most adult lives.
Stage 1: The Passion
of New Love
Ah yes, this is the love that romance novels are written about.
Did you ever wonder why romance novels end when the hero and
heroine finally get together and marry? It's because that's the
exciting part! Humans are evolved to try to pair up with other
humans. They get excited about the chase. The "capture" of that
new, interesting person - the person whose presence makes your
heart thump, and whose mere touch sends your body a-quivering.
New love means you can't sleep at night. You think about your
lover constantly. You want to always be with them. You don't
want to be apart. This is THE person for you. Many people get
married during this stage of overwhelming passion and romance,
thinking it will be this way forever.
Stage 2: Mature Love Sets In
If your body really kept up that new-love passion for its entire
life, you would burn out pretty quickly! Plus your pocketbook
would become empty as you spent every last dime on flowers and
phone calls. The point of all that new love hype was to get you
two TOGETHER. Now that you are together, it's no longer
necessary. You've already proven to each other that you love
each other. You don't have to keep proving it. Now your love is
shown by dependability, trust, honesty, the things that are
REALLY meaningful. Flowers die, but knowing that your boyfriend
will be there at 2am when your car breaks down makes all the
difference in the world. A dinner out at a fancy restaurant is
nice, but any gigolo could pull that off. What's truly special
is when you two have your own private meal at home, with your
very favorite dishes, your favorite wine, and share the memories
of your best times together.